New Member Survey

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Use this form to access our Patreon and Discord–our private support groups off facebook. These are discussion groups similar to our facebook group, with additions like member chats and book clubs.

Discussion in Discord and Patreon is private–not paywalled. Contributions are voluntary but needed! They allow us to sustain this space.

Once you we review this survey, we’ll send you a discord link and offer free access to paid tier Patreon membership if requested. Important: You must already be a free member of the Patreon in order to use the gift link.

Then you’ll be able to post questions in Discord and comment on Patreon, and participate in discussions to help other families. We ask for this survey to filter out spammers, scammers, and bots.

The facebook group has it’s own entry questions, you can join by answering the questions there–you don’t need to fill this out if you only want to read/comment on facebook.

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Name

Discord Username

Patreon Username (please join as a free member of Unschooling Every Family on Patreon in order to use the gift link when we send it)

Do you need a free access to the Patreon paid tiers (which allow you to comment and participate in chats)?* (required)

Yes No Maybe? I'll explain below.

Maybe…? We ask folks to contribute $1-10/month on Patreon OR here on our donations page if possible, but are happy to offer membership for free whenever needed. If you are already donating on another platform, let us know below and we’ll send the Patreon gift link. If you don’t want to use Patreon, only Discord, just select “no” above. You do not need to explain your financial circumstances.

How long have you been unschooling?

What is your connection to disability or neurodivergence? (can check multiple)

What is neurodivergent? Why not "on the spectrum" or "differently abled"? My kids might be neurodivergent and/or disabled I know my kids are neurodivergent or disabled and have done research and connected with other parents I am exploring my own neurodivergence and/or disability I consider myself an anti-ableism advocate

Are you a parent or caregiver? If not how are you connected to unschooling, neurodivergent, and/or disabled communities?

Tell us more about your family’s story. You may request privacy instead, but we need enough information to know you aren’t a bot or spammer. Maybe it’s your journey to unschooling, struggles with school, experiences with ableism, or–if you’d like privacy–what you like or don’t like about trees.

Please check off the group rules* to let us know you agree:

I agree to the following group rules (please read!):

Aim for Unschooling

This is not a “school at home” homeschool group. Suggestions for curriculum and covering academic topics are generally deleted.

Connection Parenting

This is a connection parenting group. Authoritarian Parenting (broadly defined, anything “because I said so”) advice is deleted from comments, and we’ll work with posters to focus on aiming for connection and collaboration instead of control. “My house my rules” comments are deleted.

Center Lived Experience

This is an anti-racist, anti-ableist, anti-ABA, LGBTQ+ inclusive space. No hate. No racism. No classism. No homophobia. No transphobia. Mistakes will be “called in,” meaning when someone points out a mistake that’s a chance to learn and say thank you! We remove/ban after repeated mistakes and refusal to collaborate privately. Aim for inclusion and respect. Center lived experience. Do not generalize about groups of people, including children. No speaking negatively about children (no calling kids lazy, manipulative, narcissistic, etc).

Collaborative Approach to Screens

Tech / screen limits are generally moved to a focused discussion space. Our goal is to avoid unproductive debates about addiction and dig deeper to help with tech/screens as nuanced self-regulation tools. In general the group aims for a collaborative approach to screens or no screen limits, while recognizing this will be different for each family.

No Promotions

If you are a coach, therapist, or professional, you’ll be expected to contribute substantial tips, tools, and advice specific to the post question before mentioning your services. Absolutely no ABA or behaviorism.**

Communication

By completing this form you are consenting being contacted by email or message/DM about membership, pending posts, and interactions in the group. If you do not respond or no longer wish to receive emails, you will be removed from the private group. You are welcome to rejoin. We understand that executive functioning challenges make people miss emails, please let us know if you need multiple contact attempts or an alternate mode of communication. If you prefer being called out in comments rather than messaged add that to your member bio after you join.

Reasons for Removal

We may remove any member at any time. This is a private, volunteer-run space. Generally it’s not a problem to make mistakes or need a reminder about rules, but if there are safety concerns–physical or emotional–people will be immediately removed. Pause and self-reflect before responding in comments or to group admins. Share if you have RSD and need time or affirmation in discussions, or if you have PDA and prefer neutral, non-directive language answer the questions in #Channels and Roles after joining to let us know.

Is there anything else you would like to share? Contact preferences, confusion about the rules above, questions you need help with, etc.

Email or phone: This email will be used to send you the discord invite. Or phone if you prefer text

* Our groups are narrowly focused and have some detailed guidelines. This is because we believe that unschooling is successful if families practice connection-parenting and neurodiversity acceptance. Getting the hang of all that can take six months, especially if a parent is afraid to go against the status quo and needs lots of reassurance. There are many other barriers to overcome which we discuss in the group as well. Detailed Group Guidelines

**More details about why we do not discuss ABA in this group.

https://docs.google.com/document/d/e/2PACX-1vQ8AGvHr5-3b9lT-pC62jFC9iyXebE1exVK4RR9lLSCGiUaRlsi0BBHn32p4ORumIXIdM5yXWYunWWq/pub

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