People often quote the rule of one month of deschooling for every year in school. The reality is that deschooling never ends. New ages, new challenges, new life events all bring up schoolish programming that we need to examine. These moments of anxiety can be an oppportunity to learn more about yourself and go deeper.
Check out our page on deschooling for more information.
If screens have become a stressor for your family, check out some resources here.
You might want to dive into more information about your child’s specific neurodivergence or disability. Often hearing stories from other families farther along, or adults with a similar profile can help parents better understand their children’s needs, instead of getting scared about the what ifs.
If that doesn’t help, reach out to our admin team directly or to our private groups on facebook or here for support.
We have found that connection parenting, non-coercive relationships, and radical acceptance are essential for unschooling. Reflective communication is one way to go deeper with these approaches. It might help untangle what’s getting in the way of collaboration and connection for your family.
Often unschooling parents feel anxious because of comments or pressure from extended family or friends.
You can set boundaries, or dig in to better understand where this pressure is coming from, using some tools from reflective communication and non-violent communication:
If you think your child is struggling with mental health, you might want to look for a neurodiversity affirming therapist, and/or use our brainstormed list of questions to see if a therapist uses collaboration not coercion.
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